25 is a special, damn important time.

You have already understood a lot, but what to do is not clear.

And it is not clear precisely because I understood a lot!

What to do?

Do what you see fit now. Not what others want or what seemed necessary before, but what you think is necessary now. Even if it seems strange or dangerous. It's about feeling as if you are backing away, as if the understanding has opened that you have not noticed many things before - and now is the time to try to realize them in order to live a full life.

Define your wildest dreams and go to them! Do not go to half-hearted tasks, do not try to deceive yourself and be content with little: go to what you dream about. It just won't, it will be difficult! But it will be difficult to go to an unloved job and live the life of a coward.

Try more! Take action, be wrong! Cross the boundaries within the framework of the criminal code - your own and the world. Don't be afraid to make a mistake, be afraid not to try! Try anything! The more attempts, the more experience. Now is a world of constantly emerging opportunities. And the one who checks more learns to work with them.

Try the bravest you can! For example, if you want to become a director - brazenly try to shoot and upload the most daring, unusual, crazy ideas to YouTube! Don't trade for wedding photography if you want to become a director - figuratively speaking. Do not detract from what is available for yourself now. Worst thing you can do: decide that if so far you have not been able to do anything and most are doing nonsense, then these are the boundaries of the possible. The possible has no limits. It's just that the majority have tried almost nothing and will not try to do anything in their lives, since it is scary to follow their desires, and to do the same as everyone else is no longer so scary. Do not be afraid of anything!

Everything we do, we do not only for ourselves, but also for others. Therefore, whatever you do, study what people need. Ask, watch them. Whatever problem you solve, study whether people need it, what exactly do they need? Don't be locked into your vision.

Meet the best, unite. Learn to perceive the views and experiences of those who are more developed or live differently than you. Learn from those you would like to be like. It is better to bring coffee to the person you want to be like for the first year and learn from him than to live a life other than your own and do what came first to hand. Pursue geniuses on topics of interest to you, help them for free. Learn from them.

Don't underestimate targeted long-term efforts!

For 10 years you can do anything. Now it is important to try a dozen ideas and act very bravely, without compromising on your dreams.

Let it not work, the main thing is to be honest with yourself and keep trying. People (almost all of these "adults" people) are afraid, have not tried anything and act in the most predictable trajectory. Don't be like that! Be yourself and try what you want, no matter how daring it seems. It will always fail in the beginning. It doesn't matter, experience changes everything.

M not today turned 25 years old and sitting on the Internet, I decided to see what the network associates with this bright enough date for young people. And I found an interesting article that describes the realities of the modern psychology of young people in adolescence. And so to your attention below I want to present material dedicated to the new age crisis - the crisis of 25 years

IN lately more and more young people begin to feel some psychological dissatisfaction at the turn of about 25-26 years. How is this expressed? Dissatisfaction with some aspects of your life, thinking about the correctness of the chosen professional path, doubts about the correctness and richness of life, searches in personal relationships, serious thoughts about the future, etc. In general, everyone can have their own manifestations, but they combine into a common feeling: is everything going right in life or is something wrong?

In the classical periodization of the main crises of life development, the age period of 25 years is not described. However, there are more and more statements that such a critical stage has a right to exist in modern days. So what are the reasons for this state? There are several factors, and they all interact with each other.

NS At the same time, it should be noted that all these reasons may not necessarily be understood by us. They can be felt on an intuitive level, worked out somewhere far away in the unconscious, but the "effect" from them is still the same - all this is manifested in one way or another in our conscious emotional life. Let's try to sort them out in order.

1. The question of self-realization in the professional sphere.
As a rule, the majority of young people by this period received their education, graduated from universities. Since that moment, enough time has passed (2-4 years) to make the first reliable conclusions about my self-realization: what are the achievements, what have I managed to achieve, what I am, what are my prospects. Against the background of these assessments given to myself, thoughts appear: do I want to do this in life, am I on the right path, what would I really want to do, can I succeed in this particular area, do I implement in the profession what did you think about during your student years?

2. The question of self-realization in the social environment.
Today, each of us has a lot of opportunities to choose a path in life: you can try a lot and earn a lot, you can get to a good place, you can work not in your specialty with a large income or develop yourself professionally in your own direction, but with a small income. Today, some specialties are in great demand, others are not, with one education you can immediately get a good position and make a career, while with another you need to work a lot only for the future. You can start your own business, you can make good money in the service sector, you can be a young scientist with a paltry salary, or go abroad and realize yourself as much as possible.

In general, the options are countless. But, one way or another, your "work" achievements begin to determine your social status. And for girls, it can also be determined by a successful marriage. In this regard, a lot of questions arise: what is my status relative to my peers, do I necessary progress, is my life being successfully formed, is everything going well for me, do I have time to realize myself properly?

3. A sense of true adulthood.
At this stage, a true understanding of oneself comes: what I am now is what I am from myself and I represent. This means that thoughts about their path, their place in life, their destiny, their achievements, etc. begin to appear. More and more, there is an exact realization that here it is - adulthood. And the way I live now, what I do, is no longer a preparatory stage, not only the very, very beginning of my real adult life, but this life itself. She goes, and everything that happens to me can already be evaluated, and there are no discounts for studies, youth, immaturity.

4. Feeling of leaving youth.
At the turn of 25, it becomes clear that the most carefree, cheerful and hopeful years are already behind us. During those very young years (and this is a lot - about 10-12 years from adolescence), we have always lived in the feeling that the best and most interesting in life has yet to happen to us, that there will be a lot of interesting things and everything will definitely turn out well, I will achieve a lot, luck will smile at me and adult life in the future will be wonderful. Now comes an understanding of the realities of life, illusions and hopes give way to rationality and a clear understanding of what our life will be like in the near future.

5. The question of implementation in personal life.
For those who have not yet started a family or have not had children, at this age the question of personal life arises most acutely. To a greater extent, this, of course, concerns girls. During this period, there are especially many thoughts about choosing a permanent partner for the future life, about whether the current partner is suitable for the role of husband / wife, whether there are worthy candidates for creating a family. Girls think about their maternal role: they want and are ready to realize it, and if they are ready, then are there any objective opportunities for this, etc. Many begin to evaluate their experience of communication with the opposite sex, reflect on their ideals, tastes, preferences, about who suits them and who they would like to see next to them in life.

Someone at this age has all these factors, others - only a few, and still others - only one. Of course, there are those who are quite satisfied with life and do not feel any twists and turns in their worldview. This is also obvious, because not everyone without exception feels on themselves all the critical moments of development, these are rather tendencies than dogmas. So, if you are experiencing some dissatisfaction with your life at the time of your 25th birthday (or, more precisely, between the ages of 24 and 26), do not take it as some kind of depression or stalemate. This is a rational and logical process that you need to wait out, go through, so that everything will gradually get better again. You will come out of this crisis as a more mature person, perhaps with something new, more productive, with a renewed outlook and fresh beginnings.

The age of 25 is called a "quiet" crisis. At this time, the personality is finally formed. Illusions recede, now the reality of future life rises brightly before our eyes. Efforts to prove their maturity end, but questions arise that need to be answered in order to restore confidence in yourself and your life.

First of all, thoughts arise about the correctness of the chosen path: "Do you like the chosen profession?", "Do I love my partner?", "What dreams do you want to fulfill?", "How successful am I in comparison with friends?" Some during this period leave their previous positions, go on trips, break off relations.

The crisis of the age of 25 is especially painful for girls who do not have children and romantic relationships. When all the friends are already "attached", the question arises whether she is that good.

Physiology of age

Nasolabial folds appear. Wrinkles are formed in front of the auricle. The growth of muscle strength ends. The body is in the prime of its strength, the person is energetic, hardy.

The bones have finished their development. By the age of 25, the posture is finally formed. If scoliosis is observed, drastic measures must be taken.

Age statistics

The population of the Russian Federation in this age period(25-29 years old) is 11165 thousand people. Of these, 5576 thousand are men, 5589 thousand are women.

Of the population of this age group employed in the Russian economy, only 12.9%

Were you born in 1993 or 1994

The 4th of October. Government tanks shoot down the White House in Moscow. As a result of the incident, 150 people die. The system of power in Russia has changed dramatically. This was the beginning of the creation of a presidential-parliamentary republic.

12 December. Referendum on the adoption of the Constitution Russian Federation... 58.4% of citizens supported the adoption.

1994 - January 31. The first images were demonstrated from the Hubble Space Telescope, which photographs galaxies at early stage their development.

the 6th of May. A tunnel under the English Channel was opened, connecting England and France. The total length of the tunnel is 50 kilometers, 38 kilometers under the sea itself.

December 11th. Fighting began in the Chechen Republic. The fighting begins by the troops of the Russian Federation. Fighting did not stop until an agreement was signed to end the war in Khasavyurt (until 30.08.1996).

The first book on CD appeared in the USA. By the end of the year, most of the encyclopedias had been created or translated into this format.

1995 - 20th of March. In the Tokyo subway in Japan, nerve gas was used, the victims of which were 5 thousand people, 12 people died. On May 16, Soko Asahara, the leader of the religious sect Aum Shinrikyo, was arrested.

The first artificial liver was tested by German surgeon Peter Neu Hauz.

1996 - 4th of July. B.N. Yeltsin becomes president of the Russian Federation for the second time. This is the first time that the same person has been re-elected to the post of President of Russia.

A test for the detection of AIDS has begun to be used. The proteins produced by the virus were detected in the blood, which made it possible to diagnose the disease at an early stage.

1997 - February 22. Scottish scientists announced the birth of the only surviving embryo, a clone of an adult sheep. Dolly was born on July 5, 1996 without abnormalities and lived until February 14, 2003 as an ordinary sheep.

4th of July. A rover designed to collect and analyze Martian soils has landed on the surface of Mars.

1998 - August 17th. In Russia, the ruble depreciated, which led to an exacerbation of the economic crisis. The country's government has resigned.

September 24. The first transplantation of a deceased patient's limb to a living one took place. In the city of Lyon, France, a hand and forearm were transplanted.

12 December. The first organ transplantation operation for a child was performed in the USA. A three-year-old boy from Florida at a Pennsylvania hospital received a heart, lung and liver transplant.

1999 - January 1st. Most of the countries of the European Union have switched to settlements in the new European currency - the euro.

March 24. The first NATO air raid was carried out on Yugoslavia. The US invaded a sovereign state that was not threatened by a third party.

2000 - 26 March. Election of V.V. Putin to the post of President of the Russian Federation. Official inauguration took place on May 7.

A robotic developmental doll was created in the USA. She knew how to talk, laugh, cry, blink, make grimaces. In the process of communicating with people, she increased her vocabulary and reached the developmental level of a two-year-old child.

The first medicinal products were created in Novosibirsk, to the usual name of which the prefix "Bifido" was added. They contain a liquid concentrate of bifidobacteria, which have a positive effect on the intestinal microflora, prevent the development of pathogenic microbes and nourish the body with B vitamins and vitamin K. Such products quickly gained popularity among customers.

2001 - January 15. The official launch of the English site Wikipedia, a resource that today has become an assistant in fast receipt encyclopedic data in any spheres of life.

11 September. The largest in world history has been completed terrorist act in USA. As a result, the Pentagon was damaged, destroyed Shopping Center, and human losses amounted to about three thousand people.

2002 - January 1st. The European Union introduced euro coins and banknotes, which became the single currency for most EU countries and played an important role in stabilizing the global European economy.

October. Recovery began 50 years later railroad between North and South Korea.

October 23. In Moscow, Russia, Chechen terrorists took hostages at the Nord-Ost theater center on Dubrovka. 3 days later, on October 26, during the assault by special forces, all the terrorists were killed. One of the hostages died from a bullet wound, the remaining 116 people died from the effects of the gas used during the assault.

2004 - Bloodless revolutions took place in Georgia, Ukraine, Kyrgyzstan, as a result of which more democratic leaders came to power.

1st of May. The European Union expanded its scope by adding ten new countries.

2005 - 5 January. Discovered Eris - the largest of the dwarf planets in our solar system.

2006 - March 29. On the territory of Russia, one could observe the first total eclipse of the sun in the 21st.

24 August. Scientists have stripped Pluto of planetary status. This decision was made at the congress of the International Union of Astronomers in Prague, Czech Republic.

2007 - Geneticists have discovered modifications in the human body that are responsible for the development of certain diseases. It became possible, after DNA analysis, to identify a predisposition to certain diseases.

November 4th. The USA hosted presidential elections... The head of state was the first black president in the history of the state - Barack Obama.

2009 - August 17th. There was a disaster at the Sayano-Shushenskaya hydroelectric power station. Hundreds of people became victims. The cause of the malfunction was a series of defects and a failure in the redistribution of electricity in the power system.

2010 - March 18. Russian mathematician Grigory Perelman proved Poincaré's conjecture, which was considered one of the unsolvable Problems of the Millennium. For this, the Clay Mathematical Institute awarded him a prize of $ 1 million, which he refused.

April 10th. A plane crash took place over Smolensk, in which Lech Kaczynski, the President of Poland, his wife Maria Kaczynska, the high military command, Polish politicians, as well as religious and public figures (97 people in total), died.

The first living cell was created, in which its own DNA was replaced with artificially created DNA. Humanity has received new tools for the development of technologies for artificial growing of organs.

2011 - March 11th. In Japan, off the northeast coast, there was an earthquake, the magnitude of which reached 8.9. As a result of the earthquake, a devastating tsunami occurred, as a result of which over 15 thousand people died, several thousand are considered missing.

May 2. Was killed Osama bin Laden - terrorist number 1 in the world, the leader of al-Qaeda, who, in particular, is believed to be responsible for the terrorist attack "September 11".

September 7. A plane crash of an international charter flight took place near Yaroslavl. On board the plane was the team of the hockey club "Lokomotiv", which flew to Minsk. 44 people died, only one survived.

2012 - February 21. In Moscow, in the Cathedral of Christ the Savior, a scandalous punk prayer service by the PussyRiot group took place, three members of which were detained by the police.

December 1st. Russia topped the Big Twenty (G20) - a forum of representatives of countries with the most developed economies: Australia, Japan, Argentina, South Africa, Brazil, South Korea, Great Britain, France, Germany, Turkey, India, USA, Indonesia, Saudi Arabia, Italy, Mexico, Canada, China.

2013 - February, 15. In the Urals, a meteorite fell - the largest celestial body that collided with the Earth's surface after the Tunguska meteorite. Because of the "Chelyabinsk" meteorite (it exploded in the vicinity of Chelyabinsk), 1,613 people were injured.

February, 15. Asteroid 2012 DA14 flew by at the minimum distance from planet Earth (27,000 km). In the entire history of astronomy, this was the closest distance.

March 18. Vladimir Putin signed an agreement on the admission of the Crimean Peninsula and Sevastopol to Russia. This agreement begins to operate from the moment of ratification by the Federal Assembly - on March 21.

2015 - Jan. 7. A terrorist attack took place in the office of the satirical magazine Charlie Hebdo in Paris, based on a cartoon of the Prophet Mohammed previously published in the magazine. 12 people were killed, 11 people were wounded.

Fari Nurbaeva

Esthete and erudite. Likes to explore life and create cool things.

What is the essence of the crisis

Parents from childhood instill that you are special and very talented. They comment on their successes and small achievements with the phrases "You are a genius", "What a fine fellow you are!", "You have a great future." You grow up feeling like a star who has a special destiny (a special destiny means a road strewn with achievements and achievements).

Success in school, victories in olympiads, admission to a prestigious university and the understanding that some things you do better than everyone else only strengthen this feeling. Add to this the expectations of parents, friends of parents and neighbors in the country.

Everyone has their own scenario, but the result is the same: confidence in their exclusivity, faith in their special luck and dreams of greatness. This confidence is also reinforced by the media and social media who scream about the special talents that Mark Zuckerberg, Mozart and others possessed since childhood. Of course, when you come into contact with reality, everything does not always work out, but the first failures can always be justified: "Here, too, there were failures, or look at J.K. Rowling." You wrap yourself deeper in the mantle of the chosen one, cherishing your ego and dreaming of a brilliant future.

Meanwhile, student years fly by, and suddenly you wake up in the formal status of an adult. From this moment, life begins to pull you out of infantile dreams and makes you grow up, step by step killing false "I" and destroying fantasies. The process goes on rather quickly, and by the age of 24, part of the personality dies.

Actually, the crisis of a quarter of life is the death of the false self.

At 23-24 he pins you, and at 25 you meet practically naked: there are almost no illusions left, the new skills of an adult are still functioning poorly, you feel very vulnerable.

Yes, this turning point is very difficult to survive. This is really a crisis, so there is nothing surprising in depression, tantrums and the feeling that you are a complete insignificance.

At these moments, it is important to understand that everyone goes through this. Someone has a higher or lower degree of stress, but everyone goes through it, and you will. The main thing is to try to break as little firewood as possible, no matter how hard it pushes.

How to deal with it

• During periods of exacerbation, do not make any important decisions.
• You do not need to close in yourself, ignore your friends and loved one. They can support and give moments of happiness, even if they do not understand your condition.
• Introduce a daily routine and develop your own rituals (for example, a cup of coffee in the morning). They will be anchors during bouts of depression and will be able to streamline life, which is very important when there is chaos in the head.
• If an attack of depression has already begun, then take a sheet of paper and write down all the thoughts that appear in your head. When the first wave has passed, stop writing and throw out the sheet. Then try to turn off emotions, not wind yourself up and shift your attention to something else. For example, play with a cat or take a test.
• If you love your job, then you shouldn't leave it. In free swimming, depression can progress as there are no tasks to distract from.
• But if you do not like work, then it is better to leave, since unpleasant work increases internal stress and dissatisfaction with life will be felt more sharply.
• Accept reality and circumstances. How to use? Stop analyzing the situation and asking the question "Why?" When you accept a situation, you let it go.
• Finding time to be alone with yourself to organize all your thoughts.
• Get busy or take a walk.
• Seek help from a specialist if it is very bad, and, possibly, take pills as directed by your doctor.

How to live on

When hell itself ends (the process of destroying illusions and experiences), the process of creating a new oneself begins. Creating a real self without the intoxication of fantasies, the influence of parents, and so on. A person comes to this period with two conclusions:

1. There is no purpose and no special destiny. Your life is made up of your decisions and circumstances. The good news is that by doing this or that, you do not betray yourself, but simply choose the area in which you will create yourself. Freedom of choice is the gift of life.

2. There is no innate talent. There are inclinations, but they need to be developed, and only then they will turn into talents. The good news is that since there are no talents, it is impossible to bury them and, again, spoil your great destiny. So you can not worry, not be afraid to start something and try, because the success of your endeavors does not depend on great talent.

The process of creating yourself consists of several steps:

1. Deal with your childhood traumas. This is obvious, but anyone who has worked with their childhood problems will say that this is one of the most effective ways to improve your life and your mental state. You cannot move forward when you carry bags of unfinished problems in your head.

2. Determine what you like, what attracts and what you want. As we have already decided, there is no purpose, and it is impossible to create yourself without understanding your interests. Sample questions:

• Who do I want to live with?
• What do I want to do?
• What I like?
• What makes me happy?

3. Examine your features. These features are waves with which it is difficult and sometimes pointless to fight, so it is easier to understand them and try to build life taking into account your uniqueness. Sample questions:

• Which daily routine is right for my body?
• What rhythm of life suits me?
• What cycles do I have in my life?

4. Choose the area of ​​life that is most unsatisfying, and take measures to change it.

And so, step by step, create yourself and your new life.

Note: All statements and advice presented in this article are the expression of the personal opinion of the author and may not reflect the opinion of the editorial board.

Beautiful date - you are 25.
And you can search, start and change.
Wherever you look, the paths are open
And the main thing in life is to find yourself.

May happiness illuminate your path with rays
And will give you wings over your shoulders.
May good meetings and bright feelings
You will be shielded from the footsteps of recklessness.

Always achieve your goals
And in family life you will take place.
Good luck, desired heights of conquest
And remember the cherished moments of life.

You are twenty five today
And that's a reason for fun!
It is joyful to shine with happiness
Happy birthday to you!

Dreams, desires and plans
Let them come true soon!
I wish love oceans
And millions of clear days!

Happy anniversary. Today you are 25, and I sincerely wish to be proud of what has been achieved, to strive for what you still dream of, to believe in yourself and not to stop halfway. May life be varied and happy, may there be a lot of hobbies, interests, joys, surprises, friends and dear people in it!

It is insanely pleasant to congratulate you.
Great date! When twenty five
Then everything is painted in rainbow color,
Dreams flutter like butterflies in summer.
Love reveals a fairy tale.
Oh, how your eyes sparkle today!
Catch these wonderful moments!
I wish you inspiration today
For new achievements, grandiose victories!
Full of adventure, funny and serious
A huge story called "Life".
Leafing through it, you hold on to happiness!

So much for a quarter of a century,
The most important anniversary
Congratulations, congratulations
Never be shy!

Reach your goals
Make your dreams come true
Your life will be wonderful
You will reach all heights!

And also success to you,
Without him, after all, nowhere,
No interference happens
Never in your life!

Build plans, love with all your heart
And live to the fullest
Just enjoy the world
Never be sad!

A quarter of a century is cool
Here is a serious anniversary.
Light up beautifully on weekdays
And don't regret the past.

May success never leave
May your dreams come true.
Your youth is in full swing -
Enjoy and live!

And with a cheerful mood,
Start celebrating
This holiday is a birthday
This date is 25!

Golden, beautiful age -
The blood is boiling, the eyes are burning!
Seize the chance, seize the opportunity
Show yourself to the world.

May success come brilliant
There will be an eternal paradise in life
Every day will bring happiness.
Magic! Do not know adversity.

Don't be sad for no reason
Enjoy life to your heart's content
Roll like cheese in butter
After all, you are only 25!

When we say a quarter of a century
It sounds so solid too.
And this is dawn for a person,
The great route lies before him.

Everything is ahead: work and career,
Family and children, fame and success.
After all, at twenty-five there is great faith in us,
That we will go much further than everyone else.

And so it is! May dreams come true
Let a small anniversary be the start
Fate blesses let dare
Life becomes brighter every day.

Health, long years and wonderful deeds.
May friends be faithful in life
And remember daily, hourly,
That your friendly family is near!

Just a super anniversary!
Celebrate, call your friends!
Light it up and twenty five
You will remember for a long time.
Is there any better age?
But there are countless things ahead
Important and wonderful dates.
Everyone wants you very much
A cool life to wish
... to live with it, not dream!
Please us with your smile
Swim away in happiness with a fish!

25 is a great age.
There are so many more to come!
" Wow! - an exclamation will spread, -
Anniversary, whatever one may say! "

I wish you a lot of happiness
Achievements and victories
And friends are so real.
Those that will be pulled out of troubles.

Take care of your health,
Exercise willpower
Believe in a dream and definitely
Life will not be life, but paradise!

A quarter of a century has flown by
So this is an anniversary
There is still a lot to do
There are many days ahead.

May everything turn out wonderful
Life, work and family
The rest will be interesting
And reliable friends!